The Living Inquiries, developed and taught by Scott Kiloby, are a magnificent gift to the world of healing, self-help and therapies. And they are like nothing else I’ve ever experienced in any therapy in the past. Whereas I once believed that I was the problem – thoughts, feelings, and just all-around me – I’ve come to see directly that this problem was not, in fact, as I’d always believed.
We all have stories about ourselves. Often they are some version of a deficiency — a way of saying “not good enough” — ranging from unlikeable or unlovable to not attractive or impressive enough to total failure and everything in between. Then there are the stories we have about ourselves to keep ourselves boosted: I am good enough, I am worthy, I am rich and abundant forevermore. We notice, when we look more closely at these stories, that they are usually sitting on top of the deficiency stories. In telling the latter, we’re hoping to deny or replace the former, when, deep down, it’s the deficiency story that rings the most true for us.
In the Living Inquiries, we slowly, gently and powerfully look into each aspect of these ways we see ourselves and find out, directly, where the substance is. We look in the present experience to find the self who is unlovable, unattractive, failing, lost, lonely, etc. This method leaves no stone unturned and no stone rejected. Every piece of our experience is honored, from the sweetest to the darkest, and we gently as the question, Is that me?
As a facilitator of the Living Inquiries, I often meet people who say, “Well, that’s obvious,” when, deepdown, the beliefs are still running the show. This is not a mental nor logical exercise. It is not about gaining new insights or explaining why I think how I do, feel how I do, live how I do. This is experiencing openness and freedom in ways that cannot be told nor analyzed. Without going to the mind and analysis, we look, directly. In fact, we let the mind and all its conclusions rest. This is actually freedom from drawing conclusions. This is freedom to live.
But you know what? I’ve already said way too much.
I’m not a fan of dangling carrots and promises.
I’m a fan of looking — simply, directly, thoroughly and gently — into our unique experience and seeing what happens from there.
In addition to my regular individual sessions in the Living Inquiries, Deepening into the Living Inquiries is an eight-week on-line course. Note: this course is a required prerequisite to any future facilitator training. The dates and times are as follows:
Tuesday, November 6, 6:30 – 8:30 pm CST
Tuesday, November 20, 6:30 – 8:30 pm CST
Tuesday, December 4, 6:30 – 8:30 pm CST
Also included in the course:
- four individual inquiry sessions (60 – 90 minutes each)
- a copy of Scott Kiloby’s Living Relationship ebook
- a private Facebook group for participants of this course to share experiences, ask questions and receive support
Total course cost is $400.
The course will cover the Unfindable Inquiry and the new and highly effective Compulsion Inquiry, which we’ve seen work on anything from compulsive eating to internet addiction to compulsively seeking enlightenment.
If you are interested in this or future trainings, please contact me at email@example.com to register and get your questions answered. As soon as you register, you will receive Scott’s Living Relationship ebook and you can start digging in right away.
If the dates and times for this course don’t work for you, you can find other course schedules on the Relationship and the Unfindable Self page on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/408220892542517/. Here you will also find testimonials of folks who have been working directly with the inquiries. Take a look and see if something resonates for you!
And write to me! There are just a few spaces left in this class, and I’d love to have you as one of them. firstname.lastname@example.org
Looking forward to looking with you.
P.S. Read some posts in the spirit of the inquiries at http://www.thetherapybooth.com/category/living-inquiries-blog/.